shaken and stirred
Hey Aaaiii,
Sorry I had to drop off like that and sorry I didn't read the story.
It was a blistering encounter in which he said a lot, but to summarise -
- Stop doing things to keep others happy
- You are ruining yourself by trying to be too nice
- Establish boundaries with everyone
- Stop being used
- Learn to say no
- You have damaged your marriage enough and it can't take more
- You are careless with your time
Etc, etc.
It was an eye opener and because no one had put everything in perspective like this before
He said I am at fault in a lot of things that have gone wrong in life
I told him about BearBlog, and he said 'clearly it is a burden to you.' I tried to reason, but it didn't work.
I left quite upset and shaken because I felt he was right on many levels. Quite often, in order to be a 'decent guy' I do things I shouldn't do, or I wouldn't do otherwise, or others wouldn't do in my place. Many times, I have felt, in order not to hurt the other person, I allow things to pass. Even at work.
I need to give this some thought.
I need to stop and slow down and see whether he is right, or somewhat right, or somewhat wrong, or totally wrong.
I may be absent from the blog for a while, I am not sure.
I am sorry about this all.
OB